What is the Driving Force in Your Life?

Do you know what you want out of life?  Do you feel fulfilled?  In order to achieve a complete and happy existence, you must identify your goal in life — an objective that will give your life true meaning — your “WHY”.

The most important characteristic that enables people to stay the course through great difficulties is that they have a powerful purpose. Whenever you want to make any change in your life, the purpose behind your goal is more important than the goal itself. Did you know that?  In fact, it will keep you going when obstacles appear.  Notice I stated “when” they appear because obstacles are inevitable, it’s all about how determined you are to reach your goals that will assist you through these times.

Regardless of whether you want to start your own business, raise a family, travel the world or be a concert pianist, you can accomplish it once you specify what you want to accomplish and when.  Knowing your “WHY” intensifies your desire and commitment, and if you can create enough reasons why you want to make a change, there’s nothing that can keep you for reaching your goal.

What are some things that you can do to keep you moving in the right direction?

  • Write down the goal that you’d like to achieve and list all the reasons why you MUST achieve it. Go ahead, make it a huge list of all the reasons that will excite and motivate you to stay in action every day. What are the specific benefits you will experience? How will you feel about yourself?  How will this victory impact your self-image and confidence? How will it benefit your loved ones?
  • What will it cost you to not achieve your goal? Equally as important as identifying the benefits you will receive for achieving your goal, it’s just as important to identify the consequences of not achieving your goal. Give some serious thought about the consequences you’ll experience personally, professionally and spiritually if you don’t take the necessary actions each day to make your goal happen. What will it cost you if you don’t start working out consistently? If you don’t make the prospecting calls you need to make each day? If you don’t stop smoking? And as importantly, how will that make you feel? Our emotions drive our behavior, so fully connect with how it will feel if you don’t achieve your goal. You’ll be a lot more likely to take action and keep taking it if you regularly connect with the cost of not following through.
  • Start every day by focusing on why you want to achieve your goal and the cost not to follow through. Every single day, think about how achieving this goal will positively impact other areas of your life.  Allow yourself to feel the joy and excitement that you’ll experience by honoring your commitments to yourself today to make that goal a reality.  And, just as important, review what it will cost you if you don’t achieve your goal. What will it cost you if you don’t start eating a healthier diet, lower your cholesterol, or save money for the future? And how will those consequences make you feel? Our emotions drive our behavior, so fully connect with the pain of failure to motivate you to take action.

I’d like to leave you with this final thought — isn’t it exhilarating to meet people who have a purpose and the drive to make it happen? Well, do you realize that can be you! Remember, goals give you sense of direction and something to get excited about.  Life’s journey will be much more enjoyable if you know your destination.  Take time to think about your goal(s) in life — your “WHY”.

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80 Responses to “What is the Driving Force in Your Life?”

  1. Andrew Sayers Says:

    Hi Christine,
    Another great article! I concur with what you’re saying. I too focus on the ‘why’ and also on whether goals are in line with core values. If the ‘why’ isn’t right and your goal doesn’t sit right with your core values, it’s time to look again at the goal.

    Life is indeed a journey. We can’t know today when we’ll reach or even if we’ll reach our ultimate aims, which makes it all the more important that we enjoy the ride!

    Thanks & regards,

    Andy
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks Andrew, I’m glad you enjoyed the post :-)

  2. Debby Beachy Says:

    Good Monday morning Christine great post. It’s the “why” that will keep you going when times are hard. I needed to be reminded of this as this last week as been just a bit rough thanks for the reminder!
    Debby

    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Hang in there Debby ~ I’m glad my post helped ;-)

  3. MaryKay Edelen Says:

    Hi Christine,
    What a great, uplifting post to read on a Monday morning!!! And I agree completely….purpose in our lives is what keeps us moving forward.
    MaryKay
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thank you Mary Kay!!

  4. Janette Stoll
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    Hey Christine,

    You’re so right on about purpose and having a why because a powerful why will get you over the hump on those rough days and there are rough days as an entrepreneur. You have to expect it. I love the “cost” of not working towards your goals and the loss involved.

    Janette
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Hi Janette! I’m glad you enjoyed the post ~ I think most people don’t actually realize that by not acting, somewhere down the line, in some form there will be a cost they pay, even if it’s only regret (which we all know can weigh tons!) ;-)

  5. Linnea
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    Hi Christine,

    Thanks for another great post. It certainly is very good to remember the WHY in order to stay the track and remain focused. Great post for a Monday!
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I’m glad you enjoyed the post Linnea!! ;-)

  6. Joseph McDevitt
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    Christine, excellent post!!! I really like to be reminded of my “why” once in a while, there are lots of days that just don’t go so well, and I think we all have to reflect back on our “Why” Thanks for the great post! Joe
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thank you Joe! :-)

  7. Dave and Dawn Cook Says:

    Christine,
    Another excellent post! You nicely covered the backbone that allows us to reach our goals. We must clearly identify and focus our Why. You are so right that in addition to knowing what you’ll receive when you accomplish your goal, it is very important to determine the cost of not achieving your goals. The costs of not taking the steps toward our goals can be very significant and shouldn’t be disregarded. The costs can sometimes even motivate us more than the benefits we’ll receive.
    Thanks for offering your insight on the importance of your WHY!
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I appreciate your comments very much Dawn & Dave!!!

  8. Kevin M.
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    Whenever you want to make any change in your life, the purpose behind your goal is more important than the goal itself.

    That is so true! A great thought to focus on. :)
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks Kevin :-)

  9. Nicole Rushin Says:

    This seems to be a theme today. It’s like everybody is wearing the same shirt or something. It is a sign. The day I got my clear vision statement written, in two lines, it was such a relief. Everything bounces off of this statement. The question I had posted today was, “Is your passion stronger than your fear?” Thanks for sharing this post with us Christine.
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I know…it’s that funny (ironic) :-) That is EXACTLY what I thought too when I read the quote you posted on FB this morning ~ thanks Nicole!! ;-)

  10. Aidan Gibson Says:

    Hello Christine,

    Thanks for this inspirational post. Love it!

    My ”Why?” is to have more time and financial freedom which enables me to spend more time with my friends and family.

    An attitude of gratitude is very important to achieve our goals.

    Keep the great posts coming! :)
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thank you Aidan & you and I have the exact same “WHY”, (as I’m sure so do a lot of people out there do too…family first!)

  11. Peter Fuller MBA
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    Hey Christine, some great points and you know how much emphasis I put on knowing your “why”

    Everyday I look at my goals and what I am doing to achieve them.
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks Peter :-)

  12. lesly Says:

    Hi Christine, nicely said.. once I realized I could be “me” things changed. Didn’t feel like I hate to be something I’m not. Just finished watching the Dr. D. Dryer’s movie “The Shift” about being, thinking, doing, living on purpose. Lots of food for thought there. Living your why is most important … :-)

    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I appreciate your comments very much Lesly.

  13. Belinda Cunningham Says:

    Christine, I don’t know how you have any time to write any posts with how busy you have been commenting on other peoples blogs. Having goals and writing them down and focusing on them then taking action is obviously working for you. Great post.
    Belinda

    ChristineCasey Reply:

    LOL! Hi Belinda, and thank you!!! ;-)

  14. Dr. Erica Goodstone Says:

    Christine,
    Great post! Drive, intrinsic drive, is essential to sustain the work needed and to overcome the bumps and obstacles along the way. I am currently listening to an incredible book on CD called “Drive” by Daniel Pink. He explains, through research that begins with Harry Harlow’s experiments (not the ones we are all familiar with), that refutes our longheld belief that rewards and punishments improve behavior and motivate people to get results. It turns out that research shows that intrinsic drive, not external rewards, lead to the greatest success. I have my vision board and I write my goals regularly – and I find so much, gradually, just happening.
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I appreciate you taking time to share your thoughts Erica :-)

  15. Lori Tisot
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    Hi Christine! Our why is the core of who we are – what brings us joy is what we are here to experience and share with the rest of the world – and so defining our why and then working to bring it into the world is our purpose – so very important! Thanks for sharing another great post!!

    –Lori
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thank you Lori!

  16. Lori Robertsonl
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    Great post Christine, I know that once we establish our why and focus upon that we can accomplish it.
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Definitely!!

  17. Nelson
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    So much of what we need to do has a common thread. Our WHY is perhaps the keystone to our success.
    I began calling my WHY a while back “My Life’s Purpose”. Same thing but helps me identify easier. I wrote earlier in the year a piece titled ” Purpose, Vision, Goal-The Trinity of Success” Pretty much the same as your post but without the more refined nuances. Thanks for the great reminder Christine.
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks Nelson ~”purpose” was the exact other name I was thinking of using for the same post instead of “Why” :-)

  18. Michael Berry Says:

    Great post Christine. We often say if you don’t know your why you’ll never really get started. Also we always ask people interested in our business that say they want to make more money, well what is the money for?

    Thanks again,

    Michael

    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Exactly! Thank for sharing your thoughts Michael :-)

  19. Val Wilcox Says:

    Yes, yes, yes!
    Knowing your Why and keeping that forefront in your mind is so important! It will help align your subconscious mind with your desires and dreams.

    Money is not the reason. What you can DO with that financial freedom is what will move you forward.
    Great post,
    Val :)
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thank you Val & absolutely correct, that money is not the reason ~ there’s more to it, there has to be to keep you going!

  20. Larry and Laura Morris Says:

    Hi Christine!
    This was such an inspirational post! Getting in touch, and staying in touch with our purpose is the “compass” that keeps us on course in our life. Our vision is the “map”, and the two will always keep us on the right track.
    Laura Morris
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I appreciate your comment Laura & like the analogy you used, your vision is the map ~ so great! :-)

  21. Dr. Adam Sheck
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    Christine,
    This is such a powerful post. I know that a big part of my motivation has been to take care of my daughter and be a good role model for her. Now, as she will be leaving the nest in the next year or so, I must find a new “driving force” to launch me into the next stage of my life. Love your specific instructions for getting to that.
    Thanks so much,
    Adam
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Hi Adam, thank you for your kind words & know exactly what you mean as my son will be leaving for college in a couple of years, and he is very much my current motivation (and like you, will need to refocus on another in a couple of years). ;-)

  22. Ben Lehnert Says:

    Hey Christine,

    you hit the nail on the head as we say here in Germany.

    Whomever of the “big guys” you ask, the answer will almost always be: “What drives us is our “why”. The bigger the “why”, the more likely is it that we do our due diligence!”

    So here’s to every why that every one of us has!!!
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks Ben :-)

  23. Angela Says:

    Great post Christine! I think it is so important to know your why and have a vision. If you don’t know your why I think it is very easy to get derailed. I think your goals and purpose need to be clearly defined so little failures do not make you give up.
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I 100% agree Angela…thanks! :-)

  24. Karla Bond Says:

    Great post. These are some good steps to take to reach your goal. You must beleive it to achieve it!
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thank Karla & so right, you must believe it to achieve it!!!

  25. Debbie Stevens Says:

    Hi Christine,

    This was a fabulous post! I think what was missing in my why process was spending some time thinking about what the cost will be if I attain my goals. I better go get on this right now! Thanks for the great insights! Enjoy your week!
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Hi Debbie & thank you so much!!! I’m glad my post was helpful :-)

  26. Edward
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    Hey Christine,

    Awesome post! We all need to find the true purpose in our lives that will give us the courage and strength to move towards our goals no matter what shows up in our way. Your WHY should make you CRY and inspire you into action to move towards them no matter what!

    Thanks for sharing this with us all.

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,
    -ed
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    I appreciate your comments very much Ed ~ thanks for sharing your thoughts about it :-)

  27. Chris Bernardo Says:

    Christine,

    Love the list of things to move you in the right direction, i know for many of us the strive to achieve their goals, that having that determination and the thought that you mentioned of “the cost not to follow through.” Having that sense of Urgency and going for it everyday is what I live by :) Thanks for sharing
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks Chris ~ for me, the one thing that ALWAYS gets me going on track again is the cost of not doing something!

  28. Johneal Rouse Says:

    Great post Christine,
    Is true that both pain and pleasure motivate our behaviour in equal measure. Would say i am personally a bigger fan of the why’s that get me excited and in joy particularly when it comes to creative projects. Being reminded of the cost of not achieving a goal could off course inspire us to act and to face our fears and discomfort and to move through these to the other side, however at other times i find it can lead me to take unproductive or impatient and futile action particularly when I lose touch with the why or am not acting from joy!
    Off course, for changing addictive behaviours being constantly mindful of the consequences of a specific behaviour can be a great deterrent and motivator for change..
    Thanks for the terrific post!
    Johneal
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Johneal!

  29. Jennifer Akers
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    Hi Christine,

    You’re right that it’s important to find the driving force in your life. I’ve been more focused in my career, and that change in mindset is driving my actions. I hadn’t thought about what it would cost if I don’t achieve my goals, though it’d probably land me in a worse situation than I’m trying to overcome.

    Thanks for the food for thought. Knowing my WHY has improved my focus and limited those distractions that had previously stopped my journey.

    Jennifer
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Hi Jennifer, I appreciate you sharing a little of your personal thoughts about your why & how its helped you to keep going :-)

  30. Joanna Sayers
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    As always, Christine, your posts are refreshing, challenging and to the point. Great reminders to help keep us all on track – it’s so easy to get derailed isn’t it?

    Thanks for sharing .. I’ll be back for more :)
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  31. ChristineCasey Says:

    Hi Joanna, and thank you! Yes, it most certainly is easy to get derailed…lol! :-)

  32. Lesly Says:

    Hello my friend,
    Just wanted to stop by and say hello. Starting every day with a goal is so important. I do my best. What I really like to is meeting people with similar likes… THAT’S the best. Hope you have a great day.

  33. Wendy Hewlett Says:

    You’ve given me a new perspective on my WHY. I never really looked at my why as being what gives me my drive and determination.

    Thinking about what would happen if you didn’t achieve your goals is a pretty powerful way of looking at things too. If that doesn’t move you into action, I don’t know what will!!

    Thanks for another great post Christine.

    Wendy
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  34. Clint White
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    Fantastic post. For me its not “why” … it’s “why not”
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  35. Julie Elliott Says:

    Great post Christine. You have given me some thing to really think about. I have spent so much time thinking about what I want to achieve and have in my life but not taking it as serious as I should be some days. I think writing out what will happen if I do not change or makes these things happen. Very power post. Thank you for a great reminder and lesson to start. Have a great weekend.
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  36. rebeccahappy
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    HI Christine,
    I am working on a major goal that I have yet to really set with the why and the purpose so I am bolting from it on a daily basis. I never thought to write out all the consequences of not taking action….you just gave me more homework.
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  37. Vanessa
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    Hi Christine,

    A fantastic post, I’ve copied and pasted part of the blog post into my goals spreadsheet I’ve created (I work well with spreadsheets!) and will start to look at the “whys” for my goal.

    And I agree with your final point – I’ve been working with some fantastic people over the last fortnight, I feel like I’ve seen the light and feel more confident then I have in years.

    Take care, Vanessa
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  38. kebabope Says:

    Hi Cristine,
    Well said you wrapped everything in a nutshell,if you fail to plan,you plan to fail,since starting my entrepreneurial journey i came to realize goal setting as one of the fundamental aspects that determines where you are going. Another important tip you touched on is “YOUR WHY” A lot of people quit because their “why” is not strong its just wishful thinking. Tip of the day make sure your “why” is strong enough so that when you are faced with challenges you can be able to breeze through;)

    Thanks for sharing..

    Cheers,
    ~kebabope Morapedi
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  39. Kathy Jodrey Says:

    Hey Christine!

    Great blog….I absolutely LOVE your tagline! The “what is your why” discussion is certainly not a new one in the blogging and internet marketing world, but you put a great spin on it that is rarely discussed.

    So many people think of the “cost” of going after their dreams, either financially or in terms of time, sacrifices they may have to make, etc. – and this keeps them from creating better lives for themselves. I love what you say about instead considering the costs of not reaching for more.

    Looking forward to more great insights from you and getting to know your work.
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  40. Vanessa
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    Hi Christine:

    I truly believe that your “Why” is the driving force that makes or breaks your ability to succeed. I’ve had to dig really deep at times to find a strong enough why, but every time I do I move forward.

    Thanks for the great reminder. Oh, and I love your picture in the header. Your personality really shows through. :)

    Live with passion and purpose,
    Vanessa
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  41. Sue Collier
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    Hey Christine,

    Another great post. As you may know, I’m big on your Why!! It is such an integral part of Network Marketing; without a very big one you are going to fall foul of the ‘downs’!!

    I have many Why’s, some more important than others, but everytime I have a bad day, its my Why’s that brings me back up and keeps me moving onwards!

    And as one of your other commentators said – How do you possibly find the time to write articles :)
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  42. Teresa Ivory Says:

    I’ve been running across this concept repeatedly this week. Keeping focused on why we’re putting in all the effort is the fuel for the long haul during the dark times. Thanks for a well-written post that zones in on the exact issues.
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    Thanks Teresa, I’m glad you found my post helpful :-)

  43. Alan Eames
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    Hi Christine,

    I love it when I see my online friends writing about why’s and their importance. It is such an important item to have in place, otherwise when the going gets tough, the why-less give up. And the only way to fail is to give up and quit.

    All the best,

    Alan
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    ChristineCasey Reply:

    So right Alan!!! (“the only way to fail is to give up and quit”)

  44. Alan Jenkin Says:

    Awesome post, Christine! What a fine reminder of how I need to revisit my purpose more frequently – it is so easy to start living on autopilot and losing sight of why I’m here.

    Thanks, too, for that excellent step-by-step process to keep me moving.

    A truly inspirational post – I’m looking forward to more.

    Alan
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  45. Eddie Espiritu Says:

    Our WHY can sustain us through all the challenges of building a business and financial independence. For me, my beautiful wife and children are a big part of what I do and I have learned that identifying this WHY is vital to long term success!
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  46. Julie Elliott Says:

    Great post Christine. I go through those question every year and look back to what I have done and where I am going and where I need to look at. It’s about that time again to check back over them. Thanks for the great reminder and advice.
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  47. Michael Berry Says:

    Thanks for sharing that Christine. I happen to believe that your Why is absolutely the only thing that can keep you going sometimes. I know it did me on a number of occasions in my past life and I’m very grateful for it.

    Thanks for an excellent article.

    Michael

  48. Yorinda Says:

    Hi Christine,

    great article. I agree with you “why” is definitely very important when it comes to making changes and achieving goals.
    I am so glad I am reading all about how the brain works in the book The Answer which helps me understand why I have all the good intention to do everyday the things I know to do and have the resistance to do them.

    Thank you for the great post.

    Congratulations on your double achievement in the TSA

    Love and Joy
    from
    Yorinda
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  49. Charles Allen II
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    Wonderful post! I look at my goals and time sheet at least two time out of the week. I have goal posted in my office to keep me on track. Thanks for sharing with us.
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